Training a slave for service either to another, or to yourself, is broken up almost into three different parts, each of these areas important as its counterpart. However, throughout training each of these areas are connected in some form. It is important to understand, as a Trainer, and as a slave in training, the connections between these parts. As you go through these various techniques, you will be hitting on each of these areas. If you only focus on one aspect, or one part of the trilogy at the time, you will not be building a slave, you will only end up building a BDSM play partner. The following is a list of the three parts of training, The “MIND”, the “BODY”, and the Spirit.
— The Mind —
It is written that the biggest sexual organ in the body is in fact the brain, or the mind as some put it. Specially if this training is happening in a “online” environment which allot of people nowadays use to begin or start a relationship. The physical will always be there, but the mind plays a bigger part in these relationships. The beginning stages of training focus primarily on the mind, while they incorporate techniques which are of the physical nature, such as kneeling and sexual service, As a Master and Trainer, you must be able to search deep into the mind of the slave, and see what is in there. Many fear venturing into such places, however it is a great importance, specially if the relationship you seek with said girl, is meant to be a life-long one. Even thought, ultimately it is your needs which are to be fed, you must still as a Master, dig deep inside her, and find out what needs inside her must be fed and figure out the best way to feed those needs without compromising your own, and then train her psychologically as well as physically. Through understanding, and the feeling of the mental aspects, your slave begins to build probably the two hardest pillars to fulfill, trust and loyalty.
— The Body —
As a Master, we become responsible for allot of the slave’s needs. Understanding him/her psychologically, also helps us to determine her physical needs, and assist with combining her needs along with yours. Training her body creates in her the constant feeling of being Someone’s property. He/She is reminded that her movements are monitored, her physical needs are met at your discretion, and his/her form is used for practical as well as pleasurable purposes. The body of a submissive is a collection of complicated nerves, and other delicate things. It is like the top of a rose, very delicate and very fragile, but at the same time, beautiful and soft. Our tasks and job as Master is to tend to it, to allow it to grow, and rise up to take in the sun.
— The Spirit —
Inside each of us, stands a very powerful presence. Inside our spirit, is where our feelings and emotions come from. Training the spirit, is just as important as training the mind and the body, each working in a trilogy, which together, brings out true slavery, and true Mastery. The spirit of the slave is what drives the intensity of her desire to serve and please, her drive to bring herself/himself deep within the role, and yours as well. The “spirit” of the slave often develops naturally within her, and in order to train the “spirit”, we must develop and train and teach the slave how to deal with issues and things about it. The spirit is also the focal point for the next two and last pillars of the five pillars of D/s, love and obedience. From the spirit it is believed is where “love”, comes from. It is like a wave which surrounds us, calling to us. It drives our emotions, our passions. I truly believe that in training, not just the slave’s spirit grows, but also the Master’s as well.
And there you have it, The trilogy of slavery.
The Mind, The Body, and The Spirit.