The biggest advantage in second life is the ability to allow your imaginations to fly. You can be anything for which you want to be, a dragon, a furry, a rabbit, the opposite gender. You can design and shape yourself.
“Honesty” is one of the biggest things when it comes to giving us so much power of imagination, and draws even greater responsibility. Regardless if you have any sort of interactions on a intimate or emotional level, you need to understand that you are dealing with another human being for which has the same emotions and feelings as you do.
Several years ago, I took a chance with someone. For a period of six months, I interacted with this person and spent my time with them. I was under the impression and understanding that this person was a woman based on their interactions with me. They described themselves in character in roleplay as a woman and out of character as a woman. This went on for a period of six months with many intimate encounters between myself and this person. However, after the six months had passed this person finally came clean and informed me that she was really a man in real life.
For awhile this disturbed me. I muted and blocked this person and ceased all interaction with them. I had opened up and shared personal information and intimate things with this person. I told them things about myself that I did not tell anyone else, and I was completely open and honest even to the point of sharing things about my personal real life relationships under the assumption that this person was being equally transparent and open and honest about themselves.
The moral of the story is, be honest with people. If you try to hide who you truly really are to someone for whatever reason, its going to bite you on the ass on the long run. Honesty goes a lot of ways. I accent the concepts that there are some who have a pull to be the opposite gender in a fantasy environment and personally if this person had been honest with me from the start, I may of even considered continuing my interaction with them. Would it of been as personal and intimate? Probably not, and I can understand that most likely was what this person was being. However that fear does not exclude the fact that they were dishonest and disrespectful by their actions.
Be honest with people… if you don’t want to share your personal life with someone who you interact with then don’t but don’t sit back and lie to them straight away. Lying is the worse thing for which you can do to someone, its the biggest of betrayals.
Honesty goes a long way to earning and building trusts and building strong bonds with people.