Submission is not something for which can be taught but submissives can learn about their submission. Submission is something for which comes from the heart, from the very inner core and spirit of a submissive or slave. It is something for which they choose freely to give to another.
It takes far more strength to kneel then to stand. It takes far more strength to hand over the reins completely trusting you will be protected, cherished, respected and loved. “
-That which yields is not always weak. — Jacqueline Carey
A submissive individual is someone who retains certain freedoms and rights but submits or potentially submits themselves to another’s willpower and desires.
To submit to someone is to overcome resistances to direction and yield or surrender to the will, desires and authority of another person. Submissives let go of their ego. Understanding submission is not just about sex or simple concepts of play even if deeply emotional and sexual experiences come forth with submission. Yielding or rewarding access to one’s body without yielding your inner self or ego to the voluntary acceptance of the will of another is not submission. True submission is about giving and submitting one’s heart, one deepest and inner soul to another person. It is an exchange for which a submissive gives and receives equally. For what is given must be given back in some regard for a submissive/dominant relationship to be healthy and balanced.
Do submissives relinquish everything?
This question has been asked time and time again. By the surface it would look like that the dominant has all of the power in a relationship. The dominant controls the household, they are the head of the house. They control the scenes for which happen. They set down the rules, and interpret the consequences. The D/s dynamic is based solely on the concepts that partners within a D/s dynamic take on specific roles within the relationship and outwardly appear to be unequal.
However in a relationship the submissive has the power to say no and walk away. They cannot be held or forced against their will in a real life lifestyle relationship. They cannot be locked up and have the key thrown away. The submissive hands over control to you however she has the power to withdraw it away. Having that power is a constant overall reminder that the final say remains with the submissive at all times. It is her choice to submit, it is something for which is given not taken and should be cherished above everything else.
That is what submission is about.