A slave’s position does not change due to those whom which she is and you are around. She still remains in the status of slavery both in the vanilla and in the D/s world. There are however some differences between the two sections. Due to Society, some aspects of slavery are not always acceptable. For example, it would be illegal in most countries for slaves to walk around naked, so hence in the normal world, they would be confined to being clothed in some form, however such doesn’t mean that it cannot be under your guidance still. The following section describes such aspects of behavior, in both the vanilla and the D/s environment.
Firstly, the term “Vanilla” which means “plain”. It is a term in which we use to describe the normal society, or people whom which are not in the D/s scene, and do not understand it. These are people in which if certain things are done, it may draw questions and not be accepted. Vanilla people are today’s normal society.
No matter where you happen to be, the slave should always remember their place. They should remember that you are their Owner, and they are there to serve you. They should remember that you are responsible for their actions. A slave when taken into training or collared by a Dominant, becomes a “image” of that Dominant. Their behavior, their actions, their speech, their movements, and the way in which they present themselves all become a reflection of you. A slave should always remember their place in the outside world.
No matter where the two of you happen to be, the slave should strive to present him or herself the best way they can. They should stick to your requirements on how they are to dress, what make-up in the case of a female slave, and how to behave. Certain Owners only allow certain types of clothing, usually clothing which shows off the “features” of the slave
In a D/s friendly Environment
A slave should always remember that the slave’s first priority is to your comfort and well being. They are there to serve you no matter where they are. They should always follow a brief behavioral pattern to remind them of their place, specially when they are in the presence of kink aware and like minded people.
A brief guide to the accepted public behavior of a slave:
- A slave should always see to your comfort and well being first and foremost. They should make sure that you have everything which you need, are happy at where you are. If there is something in which would make you more comfortable, they should see to it before their own needs.
- A slave should always kneel in a open position, to display themselves to your eyes, even if you are not directly paying attention to you. This will enforce their slavery to you upon them, and show you that they respect your place as their Owner.
- If kneeling is not practical for the specific position in which they are in, they should remain standing till otherwise told.
- A slave should never “assume” they are allowed to sit down on a chair, or any sort of furniture at all, unless you have instructed otherwise. They place is upon their knees at your feet, first and foremost. This type of assumption could easily lead to the slave forgetting their place to you, and their status to you.
- A slave should never initiate conversation, but should reply to anything which is spoken to him or her. The response should always be very polite, and specific to the question asked. The slave should always look towards the person whom which they are addressing.
- The slave should always pay attention to the conversation even if its not about them.
- If the slave seems to be distracted, bored or fidgety, you should excuse yourself from the conversation and take the slave away and punish them for such. They should always look pleasing in the eyes of yourself and others, and there is no excuse for this.
- A slave should always seek permission to leave your side. When allowed such, the slave should be quick to their tasks, finish them and then return to you. If you leave your slave for certain reasons, you should make sure that the slave is safe, and not left in a uncomfortable or vulnerable position. You should always check on the slave often to make sure they are ok. If nothing else, try to keep them with you. They are now dependant upon you, for simple things, remember such.
- A slave should always address you by your titles, and others by the title of “Sir, or Ma’am”. This shows their respect to the person whom which they are speaking to. There are no pre-set titles for a slave to address other slaves. Sometimes Trainers require slaves to address other slaves as “sister, or brother”, denoting their slavery. This is totally up to you.
- Slaves should always remember their place, always be respectful to others around them, and never act out in bad behavior. This not only brings disrespect to themselves, but also disrespect to you. This should not be tolerated, and should be punished severely.
Behavior in a Vanilla Environment
Just because the slave is in a vanilla environment doesn’t mean that the slave’s service or status changes in any regard. A slave whom which finds him or herself should still be tentative of your needs. The following is a brief guideline on what would be considered appropriate behavior in a vanilla environment
- In a vanilla environment, calling You by the title of “Master or Mistress” may be frowned upon depending upon where you are and whom you are around. Some people may accept it, but others may question such. Your slave however should still refer to you by title, using “Sir and Ma’am” which is more widely accepted then the previous titles.
- Your slave should still keep his/her place behind you, walking behind you, standing behind you, and remaining at your side. It may not be appropriate for a slave to kneel at your feet with his/her legs wide open. You may wish a slave to kneel with their legs closed, or perhaps remain standing.
- Your slave should always be aware of your needs. They should make sure your drink glass is not empty, make sure you are comfortable where you are. They should carry things for you, taking such burden off of you.
- When walking they should continue to keep themselves slightly open, yet not extremely open as they would in a D/s environment. They should refrain from closing their lips totally, walking with their legs slightly parted. They should keep their hands behind them, and make sure they are standing up straight. This will present good posture, as well as display themselves to your gaze.
- Their clothing should still be monitored by yourself. You may wish to go through their wardrobe and point out what sort of clothing you wish them to wear. Clothing should feature their assets and good points about them.
- Any misbehavior should still be counted against them and handled in a appropriate place. You may not wish to discipline them in the open of normal society, however when returning home, such actions should be delta with. There may come a time when you may need to take them off to the corner to speak with them, if their behavior becomes extremely unwelcoming to you. Remember that no matter where you are, they should make every effort to be pleasing to your eyes and to make sure you are not embarrassed by their performance.