The most important thing to do as a Dominant, is to be specific in your wants and expectations of your slave. You also must be consistent in their enforcement. If you command certain things of your slave, and they do not do as you have told them to do, do not slack off on disciplining them. If your not consistent in your ways, your slave will fail to be able to trust you totally.
By this time in the training, you should have a understanding of what you desire from the slave, and what areas in which you wish to slave to be adapt to. You must be specific in your instructions, clear and to the point when giving them, and consistent when upholding them. Your slave must be always able to feel your strength, however your slave must be knowledgeable of what you desire from him/her, before you begin to show disappointment, or punish him/her. It is not right to just punish a slave for no reason. They must understand what they are being punished for. Punishment is a way to teach them, and will be talked about in more detail in the next following section. Remember to teach him/her what things you require. If the slave does not know how to do something, gently and calmly explain it to them. There are certain tasks which I am sure you will require, and require in a certain way, that they will not know.
Your slave should be taught how to be attentive to your needs, and taught how to anticipate them. This will come in time as the slave gets to know you. You should not expect him/her to get everything right from the get go. Slaves do not have crystal balls in which they can read our mind. You should help them to understand your needs by giving them simple reminders, and help them to become aware of your habits. You should only have to give simple instructions once however. Remember not to overbear the slave, or overload them with things. Allow them time to adapt to your needs. This is not something which is done over night, and if you give them so much information, it will overload your brain, and in the end pull apart the relationship.
Slaves sometimes try to eroticize everything which they do. You must remind them that there are simple tasks which are not erotic, however must be done. Tasks such as housekeeping, may not be erotically stimulating, but it doesn’t stop them from needing to be done. Slavery is not all about sex. There is a deeper aspect to it, and in this type of service, your starting to breach down deeper into the aspects of servitude. Everything should not be sexual. Slaves may have trouble with such, however with time this can be overcome. Remember to be strict and firm, yet gentle and not overbearing.
Remember to make sure your slave is comfortable with asking questions. You should never berate or punish for well made questions. This is a learning process for them, and with such, there will always be questions which are asked. However, the same question should not have to be asked over and over again. Once it is answered, the slave, if he/she is not be overburdened with things, should be able to remember it.
Some guidelines on service
Work
In today’s modern society, it is almost impossible for only one member of the house hold to work. With the economy the way it is, for a couple to survive, at times, it is required for both parties to seek outside work to bring in and supply to the budget of the house. Remember, as Master, you should have some say in what profession your slave seeks work in, and whether or not they do so. It is always your choice. Remember however, if the slave has a full day’s work, to keep such in mind when you are assigning him/her chores and daily tasks within the house. Hiring a housekeeper, or helping out with some of the housework yourself is not always a bad thing. It will only give you more time with them.
Finances
Finances is always the hardest aspect of the relationship in which to control. Your slave should have no control over the finances. That is your responsibility to take care of. However, with such a responsibility, there are certain guidelines which come along with it. Firstly, as a Owner of your new slave, and trainer, you must understand that the slave must have something in which to fall back upon, if the relationship ends for some reason. You should never leave anyone emotionally and financially broken. They are not there for which for you to leach off of also. They should always have some sort of savings, or money set aside for them, if something happens to you or the relationship. A good Master always plans ahead, and has contingency plans setup if something is to happen. Your slave should be made aware of this, and know what money is set away for them, and be able to access if, if the time comes, or a sudden death of yourself happens.
The slave will need a budget in which to tend to the house with. They will need money to buy groceries and laundry supplies, and other things such as this. You should be reasonable in this, but also set forth some guidelines. You should request to see the receipts, to understand what is being spent. Non-essential items should always be requested, and are always subject to your approval. Allow your slave to voice the need for wanting the items you consider non-essential before making a ruling on them. If your slave purchases something without seeking your permission, they should be punished. A good way to do this is to deny her personal allowance for him/herself for a time, if they are given one.
Free time for the slave
You should always give time for the slave for themselves. Training a slave, does not mean removing them of their personalities. Make sure your slave has free time for themselves, and time for self-improvement, such is reading, or classes. Remind your slave however, that free time is a privilege, which can be taken away for discipline reasons.
Dress and a slave’s wardrobe
The best way for a slave to feel helpless, vulnerable, and open is for them to be naked. It is a common practice for slaves to be forbidden clothing when they are in personal service or within the house. This allows them to feel their slavery even more. There are times however when clothing is required, and during such times, you must remain in control in, telling them what they can wear, and what they cannot. You may way to select the outfits which they wear each day when the go out to work. Such is always up to you. Remember that things such as ball gags, and anal plugs, can be placed into their daily wardrobe, to remind them of their place.
Attendance
Your slave should spend as much time in attendance to your personal needs and service, as much as possible. During times of attendance, the slave should be told to kneel in a specific position. The position you choose is up to you. There are various types of positions which we will explain in detail later, under the positions section. The slave should limit their conversation with you, unless given permission to speak freely, and even then, should answer without shifting position.
You should establish certain hand signals or voice commands to alert the slave of certain needs, like if you want a drink, or something to snack on. Your glass should never be empty unless you state such. Allow your slave to move from position without permission when tending basic needs such as that. Asking to get up all the time can become annoying and distracting, specially if your hard at work.
If the slave needs to leave the room, get him/her into the habit of asking permission to do so. If the slave forgets to ask, call them back and insist, or deny him/her the privilege next time.
Slaves will have their own needs, but should have already taken care of such. For example, they should make sure they went to the bathroom, have already been made up and prepared the way you require them, have a glass of water with them for them to drink. Things which they should not bug you about.
Finally at the end of service, if one has been established and set, the slave should always request if there is anything more, before departing from You, and should then ask to be dismissed.
Housekeeping
The first thing which you should do is spend a hour or so walking through the house, and discuss how to tend to the chores of the house. Remember to be specific. Have your slave walk with a notebook to make notes. The list should be setup into three groups, daily chores, weekly chores, and monthly chores. This will be explained more in the next section. Give her the opportunity to ask questions. Remember that just because things are almost second nature to you, doesn’t mean he/she will automatically know them. Something trivial to you, can be very difficult for them to understand.
After the chores are gone through, you should allow your slave to create his/her own schedule, from the list. It is best you let him/her do such, because even though your the Dominant, you should not have to direct every bit of movement from the slave. The slave should be able to tend to certain things on their own, and this is one of them. Slaves do love structure and schedules, and this allows You as the Dominant to fulfill this aspect, without having to drive the burden down upon your back. Once the schedule is completed, you should then take time to review it to make sure that the schedule does not conflict with your own. it is a known fact, that there are times, the slave will try to take on too much and do too many things, overburdening themselves extremely. This is done to try to pleasure and please you the most, and show you how good of a servant they are. You should not allow this to happen. You should control their time, and make sure they do not overdo themselves. if you need to, help the slave work out the schedule, so they will be able to be in attendance to you, during your free time. Your schedule and his/hers should match in some way.
You should spend the time to check the work each day. You should not allow the slave to start cutting corners, and if you find something not done correctly, you should point such out, and the slave should repeat it under your supervision. When the slave becomes familiar with your requirements, You will not have to constantly be checking things. You should however do such randomly and occasionally, going through the house, to point out things which you see, which the slave should correct, and should be punished for such. However, remember not to punish for something he/she didn’t know about.